If A Man Can Get Pregnant So Easily, Why Can't I?

...cross posted from our sister site, New Jersey Moms Blog.

Lately, I feel like every time I turn on the news the pregnant man is staring at me.  From ABC to CNN, Thomas Beatie was showing off his lovely little girl and announcing that a second child was on the way. While I watched the various interviews, I thought to myself here is a man who is expecting his second child without what seemed to be many fertility issues.  From the information I have gathered, the man didn't need to go through any assisted reproductive measures.  Yes, the couple used donated sperm but they didn't even need the services of a doctor for the insemination process.  In fact, his wife used some sort of bird feeder, at home,to impregnate her husband.  I kid you not.  A man is expecting child number two because his wife got him pregnant with a device you use to feed a bird.   

In my life, I wish the same were true.  I wish my husband, Wally, could come along with a bird feeder and make me pregnant but this is not the path I was given in life.  Am I bitter towards the pregnant man?  A little and not because he is a man but because he seems to be able to get pregnant more easily than me.  To get this woman pregnant (meaning me), which supposedly my body was born to do, I need a team of highly paid specialists, hours of mediation, a vegetable-based diet, various yoga positions, many attempts, buckets of money and lots of prayers.  While am I blessed to say I was given my miracle after fours years of trying to conceive, I still get a little upset at my non-fertility challenged counterparts.  I know it isn't their fault they were given beautiful ovaries (while I was given two rotten eggs) and I should feel happy for them...I should.  Don't get me wrong for the most part I do but there is that part of me that is still jealous and can't let it go.  But what really drives me up a wall (and I speak for my husband as well when I say this), is the unwanted fertility advice.  I know, I know, I know people mean well but for someone who has had yet ANOTHER failed IVF cycle the LAST thing they want to hear is advice on how to get pregnant.  So the following is a guide of what not to say to someone who tells you they are having a hard time conceiving.   

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